Beauty and the Beast. What makes you a man or a woman?

DAVID REIMER CASE. Bruce raised as Brenda.

In the mid 1960s psychologist John Money encouraged the gender reassignment of Bruce Reimer, who was born a biological male but suffered irreversible damage to his penis as an infant. The psychologist advised the family of the boy to raise him as a girl. His theory was that gender is learned and gender roles are the product of socialization.

Imagine that despite our biological sex we are raised in the same way. It can be male, female or even a robot-style way in closed centers under the earth. What would be the result of such an upbringing? Are we the same from the moment of birth and can our gender be moulded in a free way?

Would we be all the same without socialization? A carte blanche? A blank slate?

The case of Bruce Reimer proves the contrary. Bruce was raised as Brenda. Since early childhood he was given female hormones and had female body organs constructed. He didn’t know he had been born a boy as he was uninformed about his male biology. When he was 15  Brenda (Bruce) rejected his female identity and began living as a male. I bet he must have felt like a bird set free. He then suffered severe distress and psychological disorders as he didn’t know who he was. He finished his life with a suicide. An ambitious experiment gone wrong.

You can read more about this interesting case here:

https://embryo.asu.edu/pages/david-reimer-and-john-money-gender-reassignment-controversy-johnjoan-case

ACCEPTING YOUR BIOLOGICAL SEX IS RESPONSIBILTY

Sex is not something that can be freely chosen. You can lament and ask God why you were created woman instead of man, but this does not change anything. Your biological sex has been given to you to uncover its full potential.  In simple terms, what it means to be a man and what it means to be a woman? Do we need each other? And finally,  why do we need to be so different?

Now let’s travel back in time to your childhood. When you were a child you were easily drawn to certain plays and toys. Though I have seen some boys playing with dolls, they still (with no encouragement from the parents) prefer to play with ‘boys’ stuff’ like cars, trains and other mighty machines. You cannot cheat nature. Being a man and a woman means having totally different energies. Such energies that were created to complement each other.

Now let’s take a brief look at these differences.

What is means to be a man?

• to be physically strong to protect your beloved one and your family from outer dangers and attacks
• to be responsible for the family, to be the bread-winner and the leader of the ‘family tribe’.
• to be able to take decisions and lead

What it means to be a woman?

• to be beautiful on the outside as well as on the inside
• to bring up children
• to create home (internal warmth, coziness, cooking, cleaning)
• to give beauty and femininity to the world
• to support her man as the leader

I bet now some of you might argue “why woman cannot be a leader” and will say that what I write is super anti-femminism. Against the equality of women and men.

Indeed. I don’t believe men and women should be equal. In fact, we never were. We are different and this difference for me means being equal but on different planes. Compare the Sun and the Moon. They are both planets. Are they equal? They vary in shape and size, rotation, surface and frequency. They are so different, yet they are still planets. Their root is the same.

OUR IDENTITY IS THE KEY TO UNDERSTANDING WHO WE ARE

Bruce Reimer was lost as he was uncertain about his identity. Yes. Now we get down to the question of human identity and its importance in understanding of who we are. A broken-winged being cannot fly. So often we break our wings by failing to accept our nature and the way we are…

To fly high a proper understanding of femininity and masculinity is needed. When you embrace that you are able to see why it is all constructed like that. Male and female together they make a cosmic duet, unleashing the most powerful creative energy of the universe, which is the power to create life. You are able to create life by an act of sex, a union and not by endless experimenting in the lab. How amazing is that?

Ying & Yang. Heaven & Earth. Red & Blue. Warrior & Princess. Sun & Moon.

Thanks to our identity we can go back to the roots. The Roots of Everything. Because all is written in our biology and morphogenetic field. Our cosmic history and our cosmic powers as a human race.

Remember that you need two to dance.

Let’s dance then and rock not the world, but the whole universe!